When Words Become Barriers to Effective Communication

I am a person of few words…most of the time.  It’s just who I am. I tend to hold things in because I have been that person who can easily “put my foot in my mouth” and say the wrong thing. I have also been known to just say what I’m thinking… or not say anything at all and bite my tongue. Admittedly, when someone else is speaking, I have been known to cut the other person off, mid-sentence, because I feel compelled to add to the conversation. Whether it is coming from a sense of urgency to share information relative to the topic, or because if I don’t say it at that moment, I will lose the thought entirely and it will escape my memory. Nevertheless, it is rude, and I reprimand myself every time. I also end up regretting some of the things that I have said, or wish that I had said it differently. It is a constant internal struggle and I remind myself of the quote from Mark Twain “It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open one’s mouth and remove all doubt“. Honestly, it is something that I wish I could change about myself…well, one of the things. I envy those who are quick-witted and can talk to anyone, or speak in front of large groups of people, in a calm, competent manner.

I guess what I’m trying to say is to try to use your words responsibly. Words can be a powerful tool for effective communication and can bring people together. They can also be a way to build barriers and destroy relationships. In my experience, words that are said using kindness, compassion, and truth are always the right ones to say out loud.


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