Keys open things that are kept locked in order to give us a feeling of security and comfort that our most cherished things are safe and protected, such as our deeply vulnerable and honest words in a diary, our fragile heart, which has been broken too many times…and also, the door to where we live; our sanctuary; our home.
The Giving Key is a “pay it forward” movement that helps support and create jobs for people transitioning out of homelessness (TGK, 2018). The concept of The Giving Key was created by Caitlin Crosby, who was a singer and living out of a NYC hotel room; she wore her hotel key as a necklace, and realized that like old keys, we are all unique, flawed, and sometimes discarded or replaced. She wanted to repurpose old, used keys and make them meaningful, so she got the idea to engrave them with inspirational words (such as Dream, Love, Hope, Strength, Faith, and Believe), and give back to the community to open doors to those who are in need of a place to call home (TGK, 2018).
Each key has a word of your choosing that represents something that one may “need”; the meaning can be different for everyone. The gift of the key may be yours in the beginning, but ultimately, the true gift is in the giving to others. When you find someone who needs “it” more than you do, you pay it forward and give them your key, and hope that it helps them, as it has you.
I have purchased several keys over the last few years. My first was “love”; it was an old silver key that had been weathered and worn. I identified with it. I wanted the gift of love to open up my heart to the world around me as it had been closed for a long time. It is a scary thing to be able to learn to love and trust again; I haven’t quite figured that out yet. Once a heart is broken, it is never truly the same. But one day I found someone who needed the key, and the word, more than I did…she was going through a really tough time after a difficult divorce. I recognized her pain and brokenness, and I knew that she needed to find love again…self love.
After awhile, I came across the keys again and I chose another word, “strength”. When both of my parents were diagnosed with cancer, and I was struggling with working full time and commuting to NYC, and taking courses for my Master’s degree, I prayed for strength to get through each day, and be present for everyone who needed me. A few months ago I reconnected with an old friend…the kind of friend that you don’t see often, but when you do, it’s like no time has passed at all. That day God put me where I needed to be; she needed to be lifted up. She needed a friend, a cheerleader, and someone who understood her struggle. Once again, I saw something in her that I knew all too well. I gave her my strength key because I wanted her to have a constant reminder that she was strong and brave, and that this, too, shall pass.
My new key is “hope”, which I chose because it is something that I need to remember to never lose, so I don’t give up on myself or others. As long as there is hope, there is a chance that things will get better.
I just purchased a key for my daughter. I won’t share with you the word that I chose for her, but it is something that I hope for her every single day. I only wish that she could see herself the way that I see her. It is probably my most important key.
The Giving Keys. (2018). About us. Retrieved from https://www.thegivingkeys.com