Reality vs. Perception

I haven’t written in awhile…it’s been unintentional. I just couldn’t string words together that could express all that has been on my mind; there isn’t a word for everything I have wanted to say out loud. I mean, 2020 was a helluva year, wasn’t it? We are two weeks into 2021, and I feel like it has basically told 2020 to “hold my beer”! So much has happened in our “United” States, that it will no doubt, be used as an example (of historic magnitude) of Presidential corruption and a violent attempt to overthrow Democracy. I fear for our future if we cannot overcome the aggressive efforts of many (Trump, his crime family, his corrupt lawyers and fellow politicians, QAnon, the KKK and NRA, Fox News, and those supporters who blindly fight for their leader, and whom are unwilling to listen to reason or facts) to override a fair election, and keep Trump in office so they can all fulfill their own maleficent agendas, which no doubt lead to money, power, and control.

I can’t fully wrap my head around the huge political divide in the country. When do facts and reality start to blend in with opinions and perception? Something that one believes to be true, does not make it so. Why can’t we all agree that right is right, and wrong is wrong… and truth is the only thing that matters, whether we want to believe it or not? These are basic facts. When “right” and “wrong” become confusing, and people cannot agree on who are the “good” guys, and who are the “bad” guys… well, that’s a big problem, and perhaps one that can lead to our downfall if we don’t unite for the greater good. Jesus, take the wheel. Please.

My truth

I read an article from a recent Oprah magazine featuring an interview with late night talk show host, Jimmy Kimmel. Oprah asked Jimmy “On which truths would you stake your life?” (Winfrey, 2018). Predictably, he responded with a joke… something about never putting ketchup on hotdogs… but then he answered seriously “do unto others...”. The golden rule. Good one. But the question resonated with me more than the response because I feel so strongly about my convictions and truths that I have often gone toe-to-toe with people who, in my opinion, are just plain wrong. The answer to this huge question is uniquely personal to all of us, but I believe that it tells a lot about who we are, and why we do what we do, every single day. I also think that it is important to consider what we stand for, and what we don’t, from time-to-time to check-in with our own moral compass.

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The truths that I would stake my own life on are simple. I believe that you should always try to do the right thing, even if it’s hard and people get mad at you. I believe in honesty, fairness, equality, human rights, and animal rights, and I will do my best to advocate for those in need when I feel that there is an infringement on those rights. I believe that everyone deserves a second chance (after that, it’s a crap shoot), and even though it can be difficult, it is both necessary and important, to forgive others who have hurt you. You have to do it for yourself, not for them.

I’ve definitely made mistakes that I wish I could change. Looking back, I thought that I did the best that I could at the time, but regrettably I could have done better. If I did, I think my life would be completely different than it is now. I could have been braver, trusted more, fought harder, or let go faster. Live and learn. I think that it is extremely important to forgive ourselves for past mistakes, and try to not live life with regret/guilt/shame…these things can haunt you forever if you allow them to; trust me, I know.

So I ask you…on which truths would you stake your life?

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Winfrey, O. (2018, April). A stand-up guy. Oprah Magazine, 19(4), pp 120-121.